We can all agree that at times, its hard to focus on being grateful. Especially as a Caregiver, daily tasks and realities can weigh heavy on your heart and mind. However, being grateful doesn’t mean you are ignoring negative feelings. It’s a way to make a shift and put the focus on some of the positive things that you have in your life and helps to get a different perspective.
The human mind can only experience one emotion at a time, so studies have shown that when you’re in a true state of being grateful, you can’t be focusing on anger, sadness, resentment or stress.
When we refer to a “gratitude practice” we just mean, a daily habit of being grateful. Anytime you make a change, physical or mental, you need to put routines in place to hold yourself to it. Just like going to the gym is a “daily practice” to get fit, a daily practice of being grateful will re-wire the way your brain looks at the world in a more positive way.
Having a daily gratitude practice can:
So now, HOW do we implement this daily gratitude practice? If it was easy, we wouldn’t have to do a blog post on it!...Lets go through some ideas:
We hope this inspires you to create a gratitude practice of your own. At Sunways, we’re grateful for YOU and our community of Caregivers who are sharing their heart daily with the ones they love.
Imagine your house full of people you love, endearing conversations being had between family members, loved ones yelling at the T.V. because their favorite football team is on, and children chasing each other from room to room developing life-long friendships with their cousins. Sounds amazing, right?
Now imagine you are a Senior; hard of hearing, maybe with a Dementia diagnosis, trying to remember who these people are, attempting to remember “Why am I here again?”, “What are we celebrating?”. A family member asks you a question, and a well-meaning daughter or spouse answers for you, robbing you of the opportunity for a social connection. The loud noises, numerous people, and bustling activities can be very overwhelming! The sentiment for this holiday can be much different than what was first described.
Holidays are joyous occasions but can also be overwhelming for someone with Dementia or even someone who is hard of hearing. Here are some suggestions to help create a welcoming atmosphere:
We often see loved ones do everything for their Senior, thinking they are doing best for them, but at times we are handicapping them. Taking away what they still can do for themselves, and creating dependency. Seniors, even those with Dementia, can still contribute to daily activities, but just with some modified adjustments.
About the Author:
M.S. CCC-SLP, Geriatric Speech Language Pathologist, Administrator of Perfect Solutions for Seniors Homecare
Perfect Solutions for Seniors is a Private Duty Senior Home Care provider for seniors and individuals in need of assistance with daily living activities due to illness, injury or aging needs. Services are provided in-home as well as at hospitals, nursing homes, and assisted living facilities.
Some call it karma, others call it just being a decent human being. Either way, Mark and I believe deeply in the idea of what you put out into the world, comes back to you…usually 10 fold. We’re not sure if the term “Karma Economy” is an actual thing, but it should be! In our personal lives, as well as business, it’s been important to us to be focused on helping as many people possible and driving as much positivity we can to those around us. We’ve always found the cliché to be true: the more you give, the more you receive.
When we started SUNWAYS, we wanted to create a way we could guarantee that we were giving back to the community that has given so much to us. From day 1, even before our first invoice was ever sent, we pledged to donate a portion of our proceeds back to local organizations who were making a difference. To us, it was good karma.
Currently our donations go directly to Designing Daughters of Sarasota (https://www.designingdaughterssarasota.com/). I (Elli Baldwin) served as President of Designing Daughters and currently sit on their Advisory Board. DD has been around for 10 years and is a group of volunteers that raise as much money as we possibly can all year, and give every cent away. In 2018, DD raised $90,000 and donated it to 30 local non-profits serving thousands of people in our community.
Personally, Mark and I believe greatly in the Designing Daughters mission, but also love that our donation can impact so many diverse causes and missions. Plus, we think its another reason our Partners, Clients and their Caregivers can all feel good working with us knowing they are paying it forward to so many others in need.
We definitely feel a shift in our society leaning more towards a “Karma Economy”…even if we just made that up! It’s one where people are craving Companies that have deep roots in their purpose and strive for a greater good that benefits not just themselves, but the consumer and society as a whole.
We’re proud to be one of them and are excited to see how many lives we can impact in the journey!
1 in 8 Americans 40-60 years old are part of the “Sandwich Generation”, and many aren’t even aware of the term. It describes those who are the main Caregiver for a child and an aging parent, and they’re literally sandwiched by their responsibility to care for both. A Pew Research Center study found that almost 50% of all adults in their 40s & 50s have at least 1 parent over 65 while also raising/financially supporting a child. And this number is just growing…rapidly! With Baby Boomers entering retirement age and living longer, the number of people over 65 is set to double in the next 25 years and it’s the Sandwich Generation that is poised to care for them.
Many times, it’s the Caregivers who are part of this Sandwich Generation that come to us for help. They’re overwhelmed and exhausted physically and emotionally. There’s guilt of being “not enough”. There’s the physical toll it takes on them. There’s the financial burden of being the main Caregiver for their children and aging parent(s) while usually working a full time job.
So we’re left asking: Who’s caring for the Caregivers? Who’s supporting the Sandwich Generation with the resources they need?
What we’ve realized on our journey of building SUNWAYS, is that the answer is “Us”. We are. We will be the shoulder to lean on, person to call and service that the Caregivers of the Sandwich Generation can depend on to get them the information, resources and support they need. We want to give a voice to this underserved group of people who are usually too busy or tired to even ask for help. It’s become crystal clear to us that this mission is our purpose.
Our passion is to not only serve the Sandwich Generation with services and resources they need, but to educate them. We meet so many people everyday that are part of this group that don’t even know a service like SUNWAYS exists. That’s a big reason why we are focusing on things like this blog, email lists and social media to try to get our message to the people who need it them most.
So if you find yourself part of the Sandwich Generation, know that we’re here for you and as a free service you can reach out to us anytime. And if you know someone who is part of this special group of Caregivers, share this blog post with them and give them a hug while you’re at it…we have a feeling they could use it!
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Elli is the President of Sunways and loves spending time outside with her family, and is passionate about cooking and holistic health.